The Essence of a Human Being

Girl. Boy. Woman. Man.



Being what you are; discovering who you are --- that’s sexuality.


At first, I never got the thought of what is really about being a girl or a boy. I mean, it’s just that being a girl wearing skirt and clipping her hair, and being a boy wearing shorts and playing basketball throughout the afternoon. Sometimes, I just thought of having things twisted --- where girls don’t rush to comb and make up themselves to the mirror and where boys must scamper to prepare for special occasions.


Many of us, especially young people, are confused about who we really are because of many things, many different things the world says us. It is when people think that we are less of a person because of the way we look, or the way boys act softly, etc. The world measures our value as a person with the way we speak, with what we can do and not by who we are. Gender issues cause much of the confusion and therefore unhappiness among many young people.


Nowadays, men, as the protector, provider, and the pastor, turn to abuse themselves. Women, on the other hand, run after guys and are easy to get that they don’t anymore feel that they are worth pursuing for. It is so depressing to think that a girl/a boy is a mistake, that he/she should have been a woman instead of a man, or the other way around.


Realizations come then. No matter what we do, no matter how we change our acts --- the way we talk, the way we dress ourselves, the way we walk --- a woman will always be a woman, a man will always be a man. I believe we are all created by God with all his intentions and purpose, which makes up our dignity. Talking about sexuality, this is undoubting.


The moral lesson taken from the discussion with Father Dennis about sexuality is that, LET’S NOT WASTE OUR TIME TRYING TO BE SOMEONE OR SOMETHING THAT WE ARE NOT AND THAT WE WIL NEVER BE. I believe, with God’s love, what we are, is perfectly okay. ☺